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Completely Unrelated, Chapter 008:
Here’s another line from the poem I wrote for student worker Z, based on questions she asked and our conversations that ensued:
The key word here is the verb:
Because the only way to get adept at stating what we want, to speak our truth in difficult situations, is to practice. And what are we practicing? Here’s what Psychology Today says:
Assertiveness is a social skill that relies heavily on effective communication while simultaneously respecting the thoughts and wishes of others. People who are assertive clearly and respectfully communicate their wants, needs, positions, and boundaries to others.
For some, assertiveness seems to come naturally. Most of us aren’t so fortunate. The practice of assertiveness can be especially challenging for introverts, for instance, who tend toward quiet, particularly in group settings.
The struggle to be assertive can be real, too, for those of us who come from backgrounds in which we were made to doubt our own experiences. For Z, well, what she experienced growing up was more a kind of social violence. Forceful. Demeaning. Traumatizing. A place where speaking for oneself could often led to dire consequences.
Wait. Why would I pull you through the reams, when the Mayo Clinic already has benefits and best practices well covered? I wouldn’t. Let me boil it down, then, to this:
Practice assertiveness, and you’ll be more content at day’s end.
Even when things don’t go your way.
After that, Zen.
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